Semi-Meaningful Musing: Not being bound by “type” in finding your partner

February 6, 2010

As SuperBowl Sunday approaches, so does my 3-year anniversary of meeting Mr. Gadget (well re-meeting since we went to college together and never talked to each other).  So I thought about delving into how we go for “types” in our partners.  We were at a mutual friend’s SuperBowl party and I recognized him from school and talked to him for a minute.  Apparently the fact that I acknowledged his existence was enough for him – he got my e-mail address from my friend and e-mailed me the next day.  Silly boys.

My first impression of him: He seems nice and all, but not my type (I had a height requirement, he wasn’t as preppy as I liked, etc.)
His first impression of me: She may be too nice aka boring, but I’ll still take her out to dinner anyway because she’s cute.

So it wasn’t exactly love at first sight.  He wasn’t like the sometimes bad-boy, clean-cut boys that I had previously brought home to the parents.  He was a little more urban and academic at the same time.  But we enjoyed each other’s company and continued to see each other to see where it would go.  Love blossomed  after a few short months and of course the rest is history.

I guess the point is, Never say never.  Mr. Gadget seemed a little cheesy and we were more friendly than romantic at first.  But it became the best relationship of my life.  I began to see past my “type” and see him.  I was also ready and more selective about the qualities I wanted in partner…this took a while for me and sometimes you have to go through the bad to get to the good you know?

He also had many of the aspects of the I realized I wanted in a life partner (and was sometimes lacking in my previous relationships).  He was extremely considerate, caring, and helped me to grow as a person.

So take a look around that bar, Superbowl party, supermarket – you never know when or where you’ll find that person.  But don’t settle and always have fun.  

Image taken from here. How did  he do that?

How did you meet your partner?  Was he/she your “type”?

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  • Bicoastal Bride February 6, 2010 at 22:37

    Congrats on your three-year anniversary! We actually met briefly in college through a mutual friend, but didn’t really hit it off that time. Then, we “met” a second time a couple years later, and started dating after a couple months of being friends. I agree that you never know when the right person will come along!

  • Zanah February 7, 2010 at 01:42

    Great post… lovely blog !! 🙂 Mon Mode Blog

  • Audrey Allure February 7, 2010 at 14:33

    aw, such a sweet post 🙂 & congrats on your 3 year anniversary!

    my relationship actually started in a similar way – although it was at a local concert where there were a lot of mutual friends around. & my boyfriend wasn’t the type of guy i usually dated either & we’ve been together for over a year so it’s been a good thing 🙂

  • nookie February 7, 2010 at 19:31

    congrats on the anniversary!

  • Erika February 8, 2010 at 00:37

    Congratulations on your three year anniversary darling! Such an adorable post!

    I currently am without a partner myself; therefore I’ll let you know once I’ve got one!! 🙂

  • Lindsey M Nelson February 8, 2010 at 05:27

    The afternoon before I first got together with my husband-to-be, I told a friend, “I’m really not attracted to Jon.” Insert foot in mouth and eight+ years and one set of twins later we’re happily married and still going strong! Your post is right on!

  • very married February 8, 2010 at 15:29

    haha – i met my husband because i was dating his roommate… you never know where you’ll meet ’em!

  • Mo February 8, 2010 at 16:24

    Yay for three years!!
    I totally agree, the boy was not what I was looking for at all and didn’t fit my “type” at the time. In fact I’m pretty positive I wouldn’t match myself up with him because we are very different people, but you’re right–you just never know. 🙂

  • Savvy Gal February 8, 2010 at 20:44

    LOL… I have a height thing too. I don’t think I have a type. It’s about that first impression.

  • * Reena Rai * February 8, 2010 at 21:44

    Ahhh so adorable!! Congratulations on what sounds like 3 blissful years. Funnily enough I have just met someone who is a little shorter than my normal ‘type’ but hes just so amazing…for now! x

  • heart charlie February 9, 2010 at 00:04

    Haha, I love how your story was not love at first sight 😉 So honest and real! I am single, no love story from me 🙁

  • DiamondsandTulle February 9, 2010 at 01:54

    Thanks for your comment! Congrats on 3 yrs! My hubs was not my “type” either. I also had a height and body type thing. Well, hubby wasn’t the “type” but he’s the best thing that ever happened to me! Values, personality, and being able to play with each other made my “type” go out the window!

    http://diamondsandtulle.blogspot.com

  • Mrs T February 9, 2010 at 02:31

    Such a cute story! I know Mr B & I were similar to this at the start. You just never know how things will turn out in the end!

  • Sarah Ann February 9, 2010 at 04:00

    Very very true. I too had a height requirement- taller than me by enough for me to wear heels. And a guy who liked to keep himself in shape. My husband was the type of guy who was always thought of as a “friend” by girls and never boyfriend material. When I finally got past my stupid requirements, we were able to take our friendship and turn it into a relationship. Best decision of my life.

  • Ruthy G. February 10, 2010 at 18:49

    great post! Since my fiance and I met on E-Harmony…he must have been my “type”! I’m so glad he was 🙂

  • Hanako66 February 11, 2010 at 17:28

    🙂

    i love this! randy and i were the same way!

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